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When someone hurts you, it affects your children as well

Behind closed doors, many couples struggle with threats and acts of domestic violence. However, whether your partner has a physical outburst, quickly followed by an apology and promise to change, or makes you feel afraid to leave them because of what might happen, you may recognize you are in an unhealthy relationship.

Although you might love or depend on your significant other and want to work things out, staying together may not be best – for you or your kids. You should not subject yourself to domestic violence. And if you have children, do you understand the importance of removing them from a situation where they continually see you suffer?

How might domestic violence affect your kids?

Parents often try to stay together for the sake of the children. But when a person or situation becomes toxic, it may be better to divide the family unit.

Although it can be scary to end an abusive relationship, doing so may be the healthiest choice you could make for your children. Even if your abuser does not physically harm your kids, their exposure to domestic violence could still result in:

  • Reduced brain structure and functioning
  • Increased likelihood of experiencing depression
  • Inflammation, which could lead to disease
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
  • Decreased learning ability

If you suffer abuse at the hands of your significant other, you need to understand you are not the only one suffering. However, you can put an end to the physical, emotional, and behavioral damage the abuse is causing your children.

Whether you choose to get an Order for Protection (OFP) to provide some legal distance between you and your abuser or need to establish why you should maintain custody of your children, there is help available. Sometimes taking legal action against someone close to you is a step you must take to protect those who matter most.