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Coping with your divorce

No one gets married with the hope of one day getting divorced. Yet, many marriages may come to an end for one reason or another. Regardless of the cause, filing for divorce is a major life decision that may come with significant emotional stress. Although it may not seem like you have the strength to get over such a difficult event at the moment, there are a few helpful tips you can keep in mind to cope with the pain:

  • You do not have to go through this alone — It may be easier to get over your pain by sharing it with someone you can trust, such as a close friend or a family member. You do not have to process your divorce alone. When you separate yourself from people who care about you, it may become harder to get over any stress you may be harboring.
  • Remember to take care of your health — When you are recovering from an event that can be as depressing as a divorce, it can be easy to neglect your health, both emotionally and physically. Exercising and maintaining a balanced diet may help strengthen your overall wellbeing. Although healing from difficult emotions may take time, ensuring that you are taking steps to protect your health can make the process more manageable.
  • Return to your own interests — While you and your spouse may have enjoyed many activities together over the course of your marriage, now may be a good time to explore your own interests. Perhaps you have always been excited about traveling somewhere or picking up a new skill. Allow yourself to reconnect with your individual identity.
  • Protect the wellbeing of your children — If you have children, it is important to help them feel supported throughout the divorce. Try not to involve them in any conflicts you may be having with your ex-spouse, such as by arguing with them or giving them any reason to feel like they are the cause of the divorce. Although you and your ex-spouse may be individually going through a hard time, keep in mind that your children may not be experienced enough to understand this, and that they deserve being able to rely on both parents emotionally.

It’s okay to take time to heal

Moving on from a marriage emotionally may not happen overnight. It’s alright to admit that you are going through a difficult time and to allow yourself to get over it at your own pace. If you were in an unhealthy marriage, consider the benefits of your divorce. Ultimately, keep in mind that any anxiety you may have at the moment may lessen over time.